Monday, May 20, 2013

15 Years, but Not Forgotten!


This is a day of remembrance for Ron.
I helped him with this very long post
because I know when a helping paw and 
a warm pressie of my nose is needed.
It's been 15 years since Ron's Mom passed
and even though I never knew her 
I feel like I do.
Her birthday would have been today ~~ 92!


Tommy had a smile for everyone!


Gordon and she had a fairy tale romance
but an unfortunate airplane crash
while he was readying for the Korean War
shortened their joy.


Dancing was their favourite pass time
and
 at the officer's mess
or on a local dance floor
they could be found really enjoying the music and each other.


This is a photo album of fond memories which you will see below.
Take your time or just skim through,
you'll get a feeling of love, joy and laughter
which was always present when she was around.


ENJOY!
psst ~~ that is Jessie with Jim, Tommy and Ron above.
She was my 'before me' doggy!!
Hi Jessie!


Pink apple blossoms were
everywhere in their world
Pink was Tommy's favourite colour!


Tommy loved gardening with Jessie by her side.


Along the beach near my house one evening at sunset.


See what I mean about a SMILE!!


In our garden in 1995, smiling Tommy and Ron.


She really was wonderful lady with many, many friends!


She helped Ron with his garden whenever she visited.


Tommy visited San Diego a few times with her dear friends Myrtle, Vic and Annie, below.




This is Ron's Grandmother, Jessie
Tommy's Mom
and
 my 'before me' doggy's name sake!
Human Jessie loved to laugh too.


Ron and Tommy at Lawrencetown Beach before it was cool to surf.


Jim and Ron took Tommy on day trips in the province many times.


On the dunes at Lawrencetown Beach


Tommy at  a friend's birthday party.
Always having a great time.


Jessie and Tommy loved to go for walks
and the temperature didn't matter.


Tommy always borrowed Ron's huge shirts when visiting,
looking mighty stylish no matter where we walked.


They had a bond like any Mother and son who deeply cared for each other
through thick or thin.


This was Victoria Day weekend 1996
(the same time as it is now
only 17 years ago)


It's Tommy's birthday weekend too!
Happy Birthday, Tommy!


Tommy was very proud of her clematis'
She had many, just like Ron does.


 Rememeber the picture (#4 above) 
with 
Gordon and Tommy dancing above?
Well, the dancing gene was passed on to Ron too!
Check out the fun they are having,
she's actually leading Ron!


Tommy lived alone most of  her life and never remarried.
She truly loved Gordon and no one came along and
swept her off her feet.
She had 2 boys to raise along with her Mom,
so life's course was set out before her.


In the fall after a bit of a wind blowing the leaves everywhere


On a favourite beach called Black Hole 
along the Bay of Fundy.
They visited there for decades.


This beautiful spring May morning in 1996
was a very special morning
even with the future a bit uncertain.


Jim and Ron took Tommy to Bermuda
for Xmas 1994.
Did they have a good time or what!


Tommy was a very smart lady.
She welcomed Jim into our family
with open arms.
She loved talking to him about
anything and everything
and she most certainly did!
They had the best relationship
and Jim was like a 3rd son to her.


So I hope you get a better sense of my Dads through Tommy.
Outgoing, laughing, sincere, passionate, outdoor lovers and 
looking for a good time ~~ LOL!


In Loving Memory of  Tommy Troke 1921 - 1998



The strength and calm power of this song seemed appropriate at this time!

*So blessed to have you in my life*

WESTLIFE - I'll See You Again!

63 comments:

  1. A beautiful tribute to a lovely lady.
    Happy Birthday, Tommy.
    A nice song, made me cry.
    Hugs Ron.

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    1. She hears your kindness, Sharon!

      Tears are just fine ~~ she was a lovely person and to have known her was my fortune.

      Ron

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  2. I feel honored that you shared
    Tommy with us today Sophie.
    She's without a doubt a beautiful soul.
    xxxooo to you Ron
    Jen

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    1. I only wish I knew her! The guys and Jessie have so many stories, but I know they had a 'ton of fun' so that's OK in my books!

      They are passing on the 'ton of fun' to me!!

      Sophie

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  3. What a fun mum she must have been, and hard working to bring up two children.

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    1. Hard working is an understatement , Jill!

      She did what she had to and then more!

      The best!!

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  4. What a lovely tribute! I almost feel like I knew the beautiful lady!

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    1. Craig ~~ Mom was so easy to get to know. She was so welcoming and her favourite place to visit was Scotland, England and Wales. How about that?!!

      She and a friend traveled the highways and byways many times over there! I can remember wishing her Bon Voyage at the airport every few years!

      You'd have gotten along laughingly with her, I know!

      Ron

      PS ~~ She loved "Keeping Up Appearances" ~~ "Golden Girls" and all that sort!!

      Cheers

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    2. A woman of exquisite taste too - you have excellent genes.

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  5. A beautiful, heartfelt tribute to a wonderful lady. You have great memories there.

    XXXOOO Daisy, Bella & Roxy

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    1. HI GUYS!

      Thanks so much! She never made it to AussieLand, but I know she's watching you now!!

      Sophie for Ron

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  6. Ron, a truly loving tribute to your Mum, and sharing memories, photos, and occasions together, makes me feel so special, a privilege you have so generously given to each of us.Never forgotten, and her special day remembered in a very special way.Fond greetings to you, and to Sophie, who was there with all the TLC needed.

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    1. Hi Jean!

      Thanks so much. My Mom and you would have hit it off so much. I truly hope you were able to get a feeling for her because she loved everyone and everyone who I brought in to her life!

      Ron

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  7. What a lovely tribute to your mom, it was like looking through a photo album. I feel privileged to have had this look into your mother's life.Fifteen years is a long time, but not long enough to forget someone who is truly wonderful and exceptional. Thank you for sharing Tommy's life with us.

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    1. Oh your welcome!

      The photo album was given to her by her niece. When I decided to put some photos together this photo album was sitting on the stool. I thought ~~ PERFECT ~~ I'm using it for her memory photos!

      Ron

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  8. What a beautiful tribute to Ron's mom. She was such a lovely lady.

    Love ya lots♥
    Mitch and Molly

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    1. HI AireBUDDY'S!

      Thanks so much. I know Ron hear's these kind thoughts!

      Sophie here!

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  9. This was lovely. My mom was born in 1920 and passed in 2000. I can relate. Now, how did she get the nickname "Tommy"?

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    1. Hi!

      Tommy was a nickname that came from the name Thomas. Her father wanted a boy, so she was saddled with TOMMY! Actually, it worked out perfectly because she was the epitome of a Tommy. The funny thing about all this was her real name is Elaeanore and it took one month to call her that, by that time TOMMY was sticking!

      Yay!!

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  10. Such a lovely lady. I can see where Rons smile comes from. And yes, there will be a time we all see each other again. A thought that´s warming my heart.

    *huuugs*

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    1. Thanks Alex ~~ life throws us many curves and it's what we do with them that makes our life.

      *SMILES*

      Sophie for Ron

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  11. What a beautiful tribute! Made me all misty-eyed... I can see what a wonderful lady she was and how much she was loved. She left behind so many heartwarming memories to cherish. No matter how much time has passed, we miss the parents we've lost. The loss makes the heart ache. Thank you for sharing this.

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    1. Thanks Martha ~~ Mom was the type to get up and go and not revel in 'feel sorry me now'. There were times she set me straight on this. Her laughter and sense of humour wove through the fabric of our existence. She was a great mother and yes I too am misty-eyed!

      Ron

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  12. What a beautiful and touching post.

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    1. Thanks Fiona!

      Your humour has captured my attention and that's why I so enjoy your world ~~ not to mention your fabulous camera-eye!!

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  13. What a beautiful, beautiful smile. I am sorry for your loss, but so thankful God gave you a Mom like her. I can tell that she impacted your life in a plethora of ways. Absolutely lovely. Thinking of you today. Much love, Becky

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    1. Hi Becky!
      You are so sweet! Yes, my Mom was role model for single parents and in this case being a widow added another layer to the complications. We grew up fatherless and it seemed so normal. I know what single Mom's have to deal with and the decisions they have to make daily.
      I do appreciate your truth, Becky!

      Ron

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  14. What can I say......except this is a lovely tribute to a wonderful human being with a heart of gold. Tommy always stayed 'on the brighter side' of things, no matter how difficult life became. She and her mother Jessie were and still are an inspiration to Ron. I also learned quite a bit about life and how to manage it from Tommy. I will be forever grateful. Thank you Tommy and Happy Birthday!!
    Oh yes, your 'little boy' is doing fine.

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    1. "little boy" ~~ time for me to grow up I'd say!

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  15. Sophie and Ron-- what a wonderful tribute to such a wonderful and special lady. Tommy was beautiful in every way. I feel like I know her now through your beautiful tribute-- and I wish I had known her. I would like to have had her as a friend. Your pictures are so amazing - they show her love of life. I bet she was so fun to be around-- I love her smile-- you have that same smile Ron. You have blessed us all with this loving tribute-- she would be so proud. Tommy has left you with her wonderful legacy of caring and a zest for life.

    Beautiful --
    Love
    Vicki

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    1. Vicki ~~ Mom was full of positive energy. Losing her husband so soon after having 2 children would have done in most of us, but her strength and her Mother's support and guidance helped her over this huge wall of grief/life.
      She worked hard all her life first in a bank, then as secretary for huge plumbing and electrical company in our local area. She had that place in order I tell you. Everyone knew her in the town and at her funeral there was only standing room. I was so amazed as I entered the church to see the faces of all the people who knew and loved her. I was so humbled.
      Mom loved to garden and to knit!! Now I have your attention, don't I! She and her Mom taught me to K1 P1...thus I have a love of creating with wool/cotton/anything I guess.
      I will say one more thing....she loved her life/her children/her grandchildren and her close friends. Life is a wee bit empty without her in it, but I mange daily and with kind words such as yours I know she is at peace and SMILING down on us all.

      Ron

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    1. Jill, you are a sweetheart ~~ now give Zippy, Smudgie and all the rest a hug and kiss!!

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  17. Lovely post! I really like the dancing photo the best x

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    1. I still remember that like it was yesterday!

      Bill Haley and the Comets ~~ Rock Around the Clock was playing!

      Jive time. SO much fun!

      All the best to you and your family Michelle!

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  18. Hi, Sophie and Ron,

    Such a wonderful tribute to a sweet woman who was beautiful in every way. Growing up almost across the street from Tommy and Ron I have so many pleasant memories of Tommy. I saw her almost every day, even if just to say hello as she walked past my house on her way home from work. The photos here bring back many warm memories of the Prospect Street days.

    And her smile.... Those who knew her will never forget that warm smile!

    Thanks for the pleasant memories!

    Ken

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    1. OH you are so welcome, Ken!

      Prospect Street back in the 50's and 60's was a great street to grow up on. We had many different neighbours from the The Bairds, The Duncanson's, The Legge's, The Gibson's, The Colwell's, The Ruffee's ~~ the list goes on. SO much to do in our little Eden.

      Mom was particularly concerned about the look of the property, so lawn mowing on a hill became part of my repertoire. I truly believe that's why I love gardening to this day.

      Mom made the trek to town, back and forth X 2. Off to work in the morning, back home at lunch to see the kids and back to work after lunch and home again after work. This why she saw so many people and they remember her making her way and offering a smile to all.

      I am glad I was able to share this with you , Ken!

      PS: I was in Wolfville on Monday May 20 and noticed your childhood property. That house went up so quickly! Another observation, were your adoptive parents laid to rest up the hill in the cemetery...I believe next to Mom?!

      I saw the grave stone there with their names inscribed! Such a small world!

      Ron

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  19. What a wonderful tribute to a wonderful lady! We think she lives on in your dad!

    Your Pals,

    Murphy & Stanley

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    1. I think you are SO right, M&S!

      He's have a good SMILE, right now!!

      Sophiue

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  20. Such a beautiful lady. Give Dad lots of kisses and cuddles today, Sophie. Dogs are the best medicine when we're hurting.

    Love,
    Janie

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    1. I loved to snuggle ~~ so I am hearing you and pressing hard!!

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  21. What a wonderful tribute to your Mom, Ron! She looks like she was a lovely person -- beautiful smiling eyes!

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    1. Thank you so much, Debra!

      Yes, Mom's eyes were so expressive and revealing.

      I do remember this so much!

      Ron

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  22. What a beautiful tribute to your Mom, Ron and you know it really resonated with us as May is also my Mom's anniversary - 15 years too and May is also her birthday as well. My Mom Liz died three months before Murray was born. She was only 62.

    Mothers are amazing people, your Mom's greatness comes across so much in those photos and your wonderful words. I hope you can raise a glass to her memory tonight and smile at all the wonderful memories. I love and I hate May every year because of the sad memories but the happy memories usually win out.

    take care
    Fiona

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    1. My Dear Fiona ~~ I know exactly how you feel about the month of May. I treasure every year the spring feelings, the new growth, the colours, the 'aliveness', and warmth, but then the other side creeps in and tinges everything just a wee bit.

      The picture above of Mom smiling wearing the Liberty scarf and fence behind her always brings me back to what I love so much about May. This picture was taken in May during her birthday and I remember vividly that morning, the visit, the warmth and the love. I will never forget because it is so imprinted on my mind!

      I am so sorry for your loss, Fiona. I know time is supposed to heal, but there is always something that opens the wound just a sliver. Perhaps, this coincidence for us will help us both.

      All the best!
      Ron

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  23. The loss of a mother is a really tough experience. No one can love you the same as a parent. If she was anything like my mother (and I think she was), she loved you no matter what and asked for little in return. But you and I are lucky that we were blessed with such wonderful mothers...so many are not. We have all those wonderful memories and life lessons that made us better people for it!

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    1. Checkmark!

      Life lessons ~~ yes ~~ so many at such a young age for me and my brother. Your Mom was a sweetheart, because the pictures from last year showed this in spades. Ryker really helped with you and your Mom's passing.
      All the best in your world!
      Ron

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  24. What a beautiful, moving tribute to a truly lovely lady. Many happy memories are shared here.

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    1. Thank you so much, Pat!

      Your world and your creations are such a pleasure to view. I know my Mom would have loved to have seen them. She loved birds, wildlife and gardening ~~ and your blog has all that and more!

      Ron

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  25. BEAUTIFUL, BEAUTIFUL, BEAUTIFUL tribute! And now I know why Ron (your dad) is so darn good looking!

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    1. Oh Gracie ~~ you tell Bobbi to settle down ~~ this is too embarrassing!

      Thanks anyway, though!

      winkers!!

      Sophie for Ron

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  26. This is so much a beautiful tribute- with so many warm and heart felt memories.
    It sad when we loose a parent--- hearts never seem to recover total.
    Thank you for sharing this truibute with us and allowing us to know this beautiful woman.
    love
    tweedles

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    1. Blogging came too late for my Mom and I know she would have been all over this way of meeting people. She was a people person.

      Thanks for your kind comments and maybe Mom will pop up in some other post s down the road.

      Only seems fair!

      Ron

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  27. Great tribute.part of moms heart went with her mom 11 years ago.
    Benny & Lily

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    1. Hold onto the memories and pictures!

      So sorry for you Mom's loss ~~ now go give her a TFB's hug for me, OK!!

      SOphie

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  28. Thank you for sharing your family album, a lovely tribute.
    Tommy was a wonderful and beautiful lady.

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    1. Thanks, Eileen ~~ Tommy had a twinkle in her eye ~~ always looking for something to laugh and to smile about!

      CHeers to all!

      Sophie

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  29. What a beautiful post to a lovely lady.

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  30. Such a beautiful tribute and, oh that smile!

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    1. Smiles for everyone, this is so very true!

      Like all of us, Mom (Tommy) had her history that singed the edges of a lot of pictures ~~~ Many circumstances that were better left untold or in the past. She had 2 sons to take care of and to offer them good lives, plus taking care of her Mother ~~~ and so much more.

      SO smiles were afforded because this is how she managed her life and ours.

      Mitch, you would have enjoyed her!

      Ron

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  31. What a lovely tribute to someone who was so very special in the lives of those who knew her. Well, done, Sophie.

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    1. Hi Denise!

      Life throws us so much and working through the stages makes us all stronger.

      All the best!

      Sophie for Ron

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